Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Getting out of the Friend Zone

High school was over, forever, and we had a long summer ahead of us. It was time to do whatever we wanted, and to take advantage of what might never be the same.

I was looking forward to packing up and moving. I was anxious to start college. But, before leaving I was going to spend every last minute with my friends. And I did.

In my town, there was nothing for us to do, no excitement to be found. We didn’t even have a movie theater and the hottest spot in town was the park. If we wanted excitement, we had to make it.

Since I had my car that summer, we spent most of our time driving around, and that is actually what we called it, “driving around”. Driving around, we had control, we had freedom. We could go anywhere. And anywhere we went.

Nik and I spent a lot of time together that summer. That was the summer for us. That’s when we began to move from friends to more than that. It was a very slow process, but as the summer went on, more and more we hoped it wouldn’t end.

But it did end, and although it was difficult to leave him, I did it anyway and I headed off to college 1000 miles away. It was a new beginning for me in college, and yet also a new beginning for me with Nik.

We began a sort of unspoken relationship while I was in college. We talked online everyday, even several times a day. We got closer than we ever had been while we were living in the same city. We were able to tell each other anything and everything.

What happened over time was that we were finally able to transition out of just being friends. We had both felt how difficult that was while I was home, but somehow being 1000 miles apart just made it so much easier.

There is a popular song out now, “Hey there Delilah” by the Plain White T’s that reminds me of that part in my life. It makes me remember and appreciate what we were going through at that time in our lives. It’s a great song and it really speaks to me.

Looking back, I know those years away at college were important for us. It was a time for us to grow up on our own, and grow together without the two interfering. I don’t know if we would have ended up together if I hadn’t gone away together. We might have never gotten out of the friend zone.

“Hey there Delilah” reminded me how important that time in my life was. Sure, it was painful. I hated being away from Nik. I’m sure if I heard that song at the time, I would be crying over the lyrics. But, now I can look back and remember those times with fond memories.

Do you have any songs that speak to you? Are there any songs out there that remind you of your relationship? I’d like to hear from you, so come on, don’t be shy!


"Hey There Delilah"

Hey there Delilah
What's it like in New York City?
I'm a thousand miles away
But girl tonight you look so pretty
Yes you do
Times Square can't shine as bright as you
I swear it's true

Hey there Delilah
Don't you worry about the distance
I'm right there if you get lonely
Give this song another listen
Close your eyes
Listen to my voice it's my disguise
I'm by your side

Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
What you do to me
Hey there Delilah
I know times are getting hard
But just believe me girl
Someday I'll pay the bills with this guitar
We'll have it good
We'll have the life we knew we would
My word is good

Hey there Delilah
I've got so much left to say
If every simple song I wrote to you
Would take your breath away
I'd write it all
Even more in love with me you'd fall
We'd have it all

Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me

A thousand miles seems pretty far
But they've got planes and trains and cars
I'd walk to you if I had no other way
Our friends would all make fun of us
and we'll just laugh along because we know
That none of them have felt this way
Delilah I can promise you
That by the time we get through
The world will never ever be the same
And you're to blame

Hey there Delilah
You be good and don't you miss me
Two more years and you'll be done with school
And I'll be making history like I do
You'll know it's all because of you
We can do whatever we want to
Hey there Delilah here's to you
This ones for you

Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
Oh it's what you do to me
What you do to me.

1 comment:

  1. I'm like that with a lot of love songs!


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