Thursday, November 29, 2007

Moving In

After coming back home and transferring to a school nearby, things between me and Nik began to grow stronger. That is – after the bumpy start.

Every time we saw each other we grew to be just a little more comfortable. Then, eventually, everything just seemed right.

Days turned into weeks and weeks turned into months, until one day we were moving in together.

I have to say, Nik didn’t exactly do it willingly though. One minute he was going to move in, the next he wasn’t, then he was looking at apartments with me, and then I was moving in alone.

Emotionally and financially, his decision hurt me. Since he spent all of his time there anyway, I started laying the guilt on real thick. “Why should I pay for all of the bills, when you practically live here too?” Well, push came to shove and not even two months after I moved in solo, he joined me.

Did I feel guilty? Nope! :-) But, I have to admit it was nice to hear (about a year later) directly from his lips, that moving in with me was the best decision he ever made. Can you believe a GUY actually said that! Of course he denied it later in public . . . typical! But, yes he did admit it to me and I have to say that those words made me realize that guilting him into moving in with me was the right thing to do for our relationship.

Most people say that you don’t know someone until you live with them. Many people also say that the first year living with a significant other, is the hardest. I have to say though, that in our case, that didn’t apply.

Of course I spent a lot of time yelling at him because he used a new towel every day, and always left the wet one on the floor. I yelled that he couldn’t pick up after himself and that he never wanted to help with garbage or god forbid – the dishes!

But, it didn’t phase either of us. Why? I don’t know, maybe because we were just meant to be together. Maybe there is nothing wrong with a little fighting in a relationship. After all, aren’t there hundreds of couples breaking up because they have no passion, they feel stuck or bored? I don’t think we’ll ever have that problem. We certainly didn’t have to look outside the home to find a little excitement in our lives.

So, no, that first year wasn’t hard at all. But, the second year . . well, it was hard for him. I’m pretty sure it was my bright idea to get Nik a job where I worked. Actually, it might have been his idea, but I know I didn’t discourage it.

Soon, we were together every minute of every day. We drove to work together, we worked 9 long hours together – in the same room no less, we drove home together, and we lived every other second of the day at home together.

It actually didn’t bother me. But, boy did it bother Nik! I guess I’m just not so great when you can’t get a break from me, lol.

Luckily we fixed that problem and eventually we both got different jobs.

And that’s where I leave you for today.

Happy Holidays! Please come back soon and read my next blog entry! Next time I’ll try to get some more pictures up here. It is, afterall, suppose to be a photo blog. :-)

Friday, November 16, 2007

Poetry Corner

My Dad just sent me this poem that he wrote and I just had to post it.
Tell me what you think . . .



Bill Gates is my hero


but, I hate today’s technology
(just a minute while I shut off my cell)
this computer we bought has too
many glitches
(but a slammin’ screen)
Walmart has 64 inch blue ray tv’s
with t-vo hooked
(did you see that play!!!! unbelieveable)
I mean does anyone have one on one
conversation anymore,
After all, who is on your five,
and I just can’t figure out this damn mp4
ubiquitous subway accessory
(where did I put my daughter’s)
What happened to the boom box?
I saw a guy in tears the other day,
seems his blackberry got stepped on
(hahahahahahahahaha!)
wonder if he got screwed up with the time
change
My clock, preset
decided it was time to switch off
from daylight saving
A WEEK EARLY.
All I know is, we need to, like
slow down and smell the double espresso
(while hearing everyone else’s ringtones)
either that or play a mean game of Halo
(or guitar hero)
next thing you know,
they’ll come up with a car
that can park itself!

mh 11/07

I’m thankful this holiday season . . . let’s get off track a little

I don’t want to get too sappy here. That’s definitely not me. But, I feel like I have to recognize how lucky I am. My life is good. It isn’t the “I just won the lottery” good and I certainly could write a book on the crappy things about my life, but overall it really is good.

I’ve been struggling with finances for years now and as everyone knows, money problems really have a way of bringing a person down. I don’t know if this feeling is temporary or not, but I feel like right now money just doesn’t matter. The fact that I can even think those words right before Christmas is truly amazing, but it is true.

Even though I have an endless number of bills to pay, I have spent over a thousand dollars in vet bills in the last month alone, and I don’t know if I’ll ever get out of debt, I am still very happy with my life.

I think my husband was the last piece of the puzzle. Well, no, that isn’t exactly true. Our baby will be the last piece of the puzzle. That is, when we finally have one. We hope we won’t have to wait much longer. In the meantime, I am enjoying my wonderful husband, amazing family, great job, heart warming dogs, and very rewarding business. What more could a girl ask for?

Did I forget friends? Not exactly. It’s true that I have more than one friendship “on the rocks” at the moment. That really sucks. But, what can I do? I’ve tried to patch things up and it just hasn’t worked, so I’m moving on. I have two best friends that I love and trust enough to put my life in their hands. With them and a handful of other good friends, that’s really all I need right now.

I don’t know what has come over me. I’m normally a very pessimistic person and this is all way out of left field. Lately I just feel like if I don’t get this out, I’m going to loose it. So, here it is and I hope it lasts as long as possible!